Why Your Habits Aren’t Sticking And What to Do Instead

If you’ve been setting the same goal over and over and still not seeing it stick, you’re not alone. You're also not lazy, unmotivated, or lacking discipline. Most habit advice tells us to push harder. Wake up earlier. Try again. Be more disciplined. But if you've tried all that… and it's still not working… what you need isn’t force. It’s support.

Let’s take a deeper look at why habits actually fail and how you can start building ones that last.

1. Why Habits Break Down (Even With Good Intentions) There are three common reasons habits don’t stick and they’re not about willpower.

💡You’re setting habits based on pressure or shame. Starting a new routine from a place of “should” or “I need to fix myself” is like building on quicksand. It won’t hold. Habits rooted in fear are rarely sustainable.

💡You’re aiming too big, too fast. Most people try to change everything at once. It’s overwhelming and unrealistic. When we can’t keep up, we blame ourselves, instead of adjusting the process.

💡You’re going it alone. Without accountability, reflection, or gentle support, it’s easy to give up the moment life gets chaotic and that leads to a cycle of burnout and shame.

2. The Shift: From Force to Compassion Here’s the secret: real habit change happens through self-compassion and connection, not rigidity. Ask yourself: • What would it feel like to support myself into this habit instead of forcing it? • What’s the smallest version of this habit I can try today? • Who could I check in with to stay grounded? This shift can be simple. It just takes a new approach.

3. What Coaching Can Offer In my free 30-minute coaching sessions, here’s what we do:

• We uncover the real reason your habit isn’t sticking (no shame, just honesty).

• We talk about your life, schedule, and needs, not someone else’s formula.

• We build one small, doable step that actually feels supportive.

There’s no pressure to have it all figured out. Just a safe space to begin.

Ready to try something different? If you’ve been feeling stuck, tired of starting over, or like you should be farther along by now, let’s talk. These free coaching sessions are open for a limited time, and they’re here to help you reset with support instead of self-criticism.

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